There’s been an interesting series of events happening in my life lately, one in particular got me thinking. Those that follow my posts on Twitter have an idea of what I’m talking about, and without going into detail, I’ll fill the rest of you in.
My two boys were playing the other day and one intentionally, or unintentionally (still trying to determine his mind-frame with this), caused harm to his other brother. I do realize these things happen, I mean, I KNOW this stuff happens. I had three younger brothers growing up, we fought all the time. Sometimes, most of the time, someone would get hurt. We of course didn’t intend to cause any serious damage, who really has that intention.
But anyway, this got me to thinking about why people don’t think before they act, and even to why I act the way I do sometimes without taking a second to check the situation. It’s rather redundant to keep saying this, but our actions always, ALWAYS have an equal reaction.
I’m not talking about karma, I’m talking about you or I making a decision that could cause permanent harm to someone. Our actions obviously hurt the person in that moment, but what damage could we have potentially caused in the long run?
So you decide it’d be funny to mock the Three Stooges and give your pal an eye poke, nyuk nyuk nyuk, very funny right? Your friend, obviously, is not excited about being jabbed in the eye, and tells you to cut your fingernails because it hurt his eyeball. You find out later that you scratched the eyeball and now your friend has permanent blurred vision in his eye. Very funny right?
How about this one, you decide to give your friend a wet willy, it’s funny right. A little gross, but sometimes wet willies are funny. Instead of just your finger you grab a small object, wet it and jab it in their ear. Again, they are not excited about your idiocy and complain that it hurts. You chuckle, thinking your moronic attempt to garner some laughs worked. You find out two days later you have caused irreparable damage to your friends ear drum and ear canal, they will never hear again, or at least properly, in that ear.
My whole point is there comes a time when we all need to slow down, no we need to STOP, and take just a split second to question what the hell we are doing. What’s the outcome going to be here? Is this causing someone harm? This is going to be bad right? I probably shouldn’t do this, but it’d be so funny right?
Seriously, when are we going to learn this stuff? I know I don’t think all the time about what I do and how it’ll turn out, there’s got to be an easier way to just slow down. Surprisingly, there is! It’s something we have will us all the time, most of the time we don’t even know it’s there. It’s our breath. Maybe monkey mind has you in it’s grip, and you aren’t making the best decisions, slow down and take a breath. The breath can be one of the most refreshing things, it can bring a moment of clarity like nothing else.
So, next time your thinking the eye gouge or wet willy is a smart idea, slow down, better yet, STOP! Take a breath and MOVE ON.
It’s hard sometimes for me to swallow the words I say, but this has got to happen. Whether we know it or not, people are watching. Not some big brother type of thing, but folks are sometimes looking for our example, you know. Especially those of us that have small children, they are going to mimic everything we do.
I leave you with this gem… In the now infamous words of a wise man, Ice Cube, “You better check yo self before you wreck yo self!” I couldn’t have said it better myself…